A blessing for your new year

January 1st, 2018 by Tonya

May the blessing of Flow Ripple through your life This New Year May Synchronicity And Serendipity be your treasured friends May the path unfold before you Like a golden carpet At each fork in the road, May inner knowing light your way May divine inspiration bless your mornings, noons and even-times And kindness and tenderness every connection and every partnership May you always have a friend Who loves your soul With which to share your dearest moments And when you do not May you learn to enjoy each delight in the Tender blessing of Your own heart Wishing you a blessed year <3

Time to shine our light!

December 22nd, 2017 by Tonya

If I asked you to look back over the past year and tell me whether this has been a 'landmark' or 'watershed' year for you, or whether it has been a bit 'same-old, same-old', I'd like to bet that most of you would say it has been the former. With a certain US president pretty much holding the world to ransom with his outlandish actions and ideas - which seem so at odds with the interests of most of the people on the planet; with natural disasters reaching alarming levels and with the reality of climate change becoming ever harder to ignore - and for any number of other reasons, a lot of us would agree that we have reached some sort of crunch point Read More...

How do you deal with uncomfortable emotion?

December 8th, 2017 by Tonya

Something really struck a chord on Day 3 of our last co-counselling training course. We had constructed an 'emotional wall map' and group members were plotting the various feelings we experienced, as individuals, along two axes of 'positive/negative emotion' and 'high/low intensity emotion' - and we labelled these feelings according to what felt authentic to us (it didn't have to fit into any other person's model of what a particular feeling was called) Read More...

Do you allow yourself to fully feel?

November 8th, 2017 by Tonya

I'm having a run of transformational coaching clients who seem well-practised in the art of what we might call 'emotional numbing'. Because events in their past have been experienced as 'too traumatic' to truly feel, they have learnt to suppress authentic emotion. And this response has, over time, become so instantaneous - especially around key 'karmic' issues in their lives - that they find it hard to access the emotion at all Read More...

Want to change the world? Change your consciousness!

September 23rd, 2016 by Tonya

I've witnessed a lot of finger-pointing recently. You know, the kind of situation where one person, unwilling to face up to his own part in creating a particular situation, blames life/ 'the universe', the government, whoever for what is going on. It often stems, it would seem to me, from the person feeling vulnerable about - or powerless to change - something in her life - that she can't 'control' things around her Read More...

Light and dark – a changing relationship

May 26th, 2016 by Tonya

          'Take the lowest place and you shall reach the highest' Milarepa, 12th century Buddhist poet I've been very aware of the dance of opposites in my life recently - and in particular that of light and dark. And this has been reflected back to me by my relationship with a new friend in my life Read More...

Touching the void

May 12th, 2015 by Tonya

Something really struck a chord on Day 3 of our co-counselling training course in London a few months back. We had constructed an 'emotional map' on the wall and we were plotting the various feelings we experienced, as individuals, along two axes of 'positive/negative emotion' and 'high/low intensity emotion' - and we labelled these feelings according to what felt authentic to us (it didn't have to fit into any other person's model of what a particular feeling was called) Read More...